A Feral Cat, Puzzling

[reachingHigher]

One more thing, T^2, you were clear with me last fall to give the message to my H it won't be "the same, only D". My L said the same thing. He frowned at me when I suggested my H could still have visitation at the house.

Would you normally jump at the chance to go to a movie with her?

Maybe you should consider saying no, you have some things to think about. How would she react? The distancer/pursuer roles?

You are always there for her, right? Like she knows she can be a bad girl and then run to "daddy" and he will tell her everything will be okay?

Idk enough about her and you so I may just be blowing smoke, but was just pondering some of the advice you used to give me. It's often a timing thing so only you would know.

It sounds like you have been plenty detached. She has no idea how hard her life will be without you in it. She hasn't thought it through. Probably is just too scared right now and envisions you'll still hold her hand. Idk.

How could she think she could leave her kids? She must be so scared. My H's journal said about him being pulled in "multiple directions at once". It must feel like that to them. Even now he still feels the "call of the wild".

Thinking of you, T^2