T, I am so sorry to come here and read your posting. Do what you need to do for you, not as a wake up call for her. Someone will need to sit down w/her and advise her that things are going to drastically change if a divorce should go through, i.e., no more living in the house, i.e., she needs to hear those things in order to face the consequences of her actions.
T, you are a strong individual who deserves the very best. Don't do anything when you are upset or angry, i.e., you know the drill.
We are all here for you no matter what you decide to do. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers, i.e., hoping against all odds that she'll not sign the papers if they are presented to her.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
