Well now you got me all excited. What's the last resort after the LRT?
Well there's letting go and then there's letting go. Some people say they are letting go, but they are really just pursuing it as another "technique" in DB'ing, it's another way of trying to bring their WAS back. So they have expectations that letting go is going to do something. Then there's letting go, when you finally come to the realization that you have no control over anything but yourself, that those aren't just words, but cold, hard facts. You release your spouse and move on without them and you have zero expectations that you will ever reconcile with them. You're living your life and leaving them to theirs. Some people might see it as giving up, but it's not really that, it's just accepting things as they are and moving to another place. It's well and truly accepting that you will be fine whether you continue life with or without your spouse, and finding your contentment and PMA in life without them. Sometimes when the LBS reaches this point the WAS suddenly realizes they're losing the LBS, and they're drawn back to them. But the LBS is often so fully detached and independent by then that they don't know if they even want the WAS back.
