Oh man, this part is the worst. The kids. But one day I just told myself, if the worst thing that happens in my kids life is that their parents divorce, I'm ok with that. I refuse to allow myself to believe and thus act like they are missing something because of what is going on. They are loved and safe. I make sure I take that time, like you are, to show them this. The universe provides what we lack. She has YOU and you are an amazing father! My H coulld come by anytime to see his kids, and for the first month he came by alot. Then, he started canceling, it got bad. I was so upset! How could he do this?!?! They are his babies!! But, S4 (who was taking it the hardest) has wonderful men in his life in my brothers, brother in law and my friends husbands. They all took special time with him when he was craving that male attention.
Your daughter will thrive and have a wonderful life, because of you. If her mother wises up, awesome! If not, her loss. The effect on our kids is huge, but we don't have to take this on ourselves. We didn't choose this. And does it really blow that we are the ones dealing with the daily effects of our spouses junky life decisions? Yep. But, I choose to look at it like this. Thank God I'm more than enough love and awesomeness for my kids. Thank God you are more than enough love and awesomeness for your D. Then, the other 10% of the time when I want to bash in my H's brains...I go out to the punching bad and tape a pic of him to it. My H actually knows about it, and thinks it hilarious...and well deserved. I mean, we can't be all rainbows and sunshine all the time
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
