KD... It was a temp check for him. He wants to be certain that I am "there", but once I respond, he backs away again. Typical to the dance of below. He wants me to continue to pursue him. I don't want to play anymore.
// When you detach and distance yourself from your spouse, notice how they start coming around, being nice, etc.? Well, he/she feels that you are not pursuing them. They want the chase, they want you to pursue them so that they can come back and slam dunk you all over again. It's a dance of madness. They may not even be aware of what they are doing, but once you snap up the niceness all over again, they will most definitely come back w/anger to distance themselves from you again for their safety and security. Does this sound familiar to you?//
Am now waiving my white flag. I surrender. Thinking about asking him to pay me the funds that is owed (salary, loan), and once that is received, ask him how we can disolve the business. I cannot continue to work with him. It's too gruelling and it is delaying the end. I need to be away from him. I hurt sooo much when I see him, and then so sad when I don't. I want to be free from him, and be able to heal.
Is ending my business going against DB efforts? or is this just me pushing away? (to save myself?).
Tx for the L advice. I am considering going to find out for myself, but just fear all the ugliness that it may bring. I just don't want any of it.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
