Divorced from a WAW....gut feelings

[JJAC2005]

So, do our gut feelings really count for anything?
I would hope that we have a pretty good understanding of our significant others by this point....but one never truly knows anyone totally, right? Leaving the door always open for a surprise
When I started this thread I was hoping to get a few others to plug in a little insight on the WAS situations and the possible triggers for fog lifting to the point of contact for curiosity sake.
I have read quite an array of different story line situations here, and one of the most common connections are for those of you that shared children with your WAS.
In my case, I am not sure what will be the tie to any type of draw back for another look...one can hope that there will be a combination of love, values, and even remembering that things weren’t always as bad as you/they remembered
As most of the newbie’s here, I am still learning a lot about patience and detachment, sometimes slower some days than on others. But I also think that we are still so fresh that we want a quick turn around, but know that it’s probably all for the best if we can gain a lot of ground in our learning until that day comes when our WAS gives us that hint of interest.
Right now my gut is telling me that the woman I knew as my wife is gone….she has really turned the page and is ready to write her next chapters without even the slightest inclining of looking back.
However, my heart still hangs on to a few things that say….maybe.…maybe in time her heart will soften and her mind will recall….and her interest will be peaked to check in for a visit.
So, do we listen to our gut…or our hearts?