Crazy little thing called MLC

[AJM]

I hope he doesn't go spiraling down to rock bottom but who knows.

I am on the other side of this one. For somebody spiraling out of control, rock bottom is the only way to get out of it. I hope he gets there sooner than most as that will help be his catalyst to break the cycle he seems stuck in.

As for you, getting off the train is the only way to survive it. I'm sorry to say that you need that. The good news is that you can get off that train and don't even have to move. Easier said than done of course, but it's not easy watching that train wreck and it takes it's toll.

If it makes it easier, I know several people that did what your H is doing. I know many that later regretted it and wanted back so badly it was equally sickening to watch. One never knows what the future holds, but we do know what is going on right now and the effects it has on us.

It stops being painful when we stop letting it be. Until then, we stay on that train while our spouse becomes "human" (with any luck; some don't and stay stuck.)

Raine, you are amazing. But see the reality and accept it for what it is right now. Get off the train and stop watching m'dear. There will be time enough later to sweep up the pieces if you're still of a mind to do so.

Peace,
AJ