Chewing tobacco is not the reason your marriage is not healthy lol, trust me. You quit and there will be something else. Even if you didn't chew it would be something else.
Benefits? Really? Have you been posting here and reading or have aliens taken the real SFC away? Of course, about three weeks I asked H if I could call him up for a booty call lol, so I guess I was no better lol!! (he declined)
That DONE is script for every spouse that walks away. Mine was done. Now who knows?