SD, glad you are back, i missed you! i had to laugh at your story about the freakout... just look at it as being out of practice, at least that is what i tell myself.
I missed you too and cant wait to hear about EE. I laughed about your story too...I agree with NG about out of practice...lol...
Welcome back!!
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
P just called "to catch up". After quite a while of that, she wanted to tell me that she's going to start dating again. "It seemed like it was time." I can't be surprised, but it still sucked the breath out of me.
She apologized. More than once. I can feel her guilt and it doesn't help my case any. I wanted to apologize to her for my piece and she had a hard time hearing it. She gave her appreciations to me. I thanked her. I wished her all the best. I was feeling my feelings but I was calm and composed. At one point she encouraged me to keep telling myself that I was a hot catch. I replied very quietly, but self-assuredly, as if there must be some confusion, "Well, I am." I think that surprised her and knocked her out of her patronizing attitude.
I asked about her daughter visiting (to see her horse). I said D was welcome to stay here. She said that her D was thinking of coming in October and that P had offered to come with her, but maybe I didn't want them both showing up. I said we could check in about that later. She agreed that we could see where things are.
Another layer of loss and grieving.
After the intense workshop, I felt like I just got off the red-eye. Now I feel like I got hit by a truck, too. I sure hope I can get some sleep tonight.
I replied very quietly, but self-assuredly, as if there must be some confusion, "Well, I am." I think that surprised her and knocked her out of her patronizing attitude.
A very simple, but effective retort. Good job, Stubborn.
No wise words or pithy one-liners from me for what you're going through at the moment. Here's a hug for you! (((Stubborn)))
Thanks Wonka, Ruby. I've been taking good care of myself and seeking out supportive friends. Sleep helps, too.
And laughter. I thank NG and Zig for that. They got me laughing so hard in the middle of the night that I was afraid I'd wake up my housemate. Good medicine!
Hey SD! I am learning so much from you!!! I have been nervous about my W's 1st visit ending on Thu. so I popped back over to reread and get some insight from your journey. You are a rock star!
...and I hate trucks. ((((hug))))
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
Long time me no check in, and I want to give you both cyber hugs. Missed you ladies!
SD, sorry to hear your latest. I have to say, though, that going through this before has made you wise and wonderful, and you definitely applied those lessons well. No matter how this all shakes out, I think you're awesome and you're gonna land with all 4 feet on the ground.
No matter what those little pervasive voices say underneath the surface, you are a wonderful person and deserve nothing but love and devotion. Believe that!
Hugs,
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey