On Thursday, my 2nd D had a school concert. My W left to the gym before I returned home (slightly late) and I took my 3 girls alone to concert. My W missing concert is not a big thing, but it is noticed. At 8:30 when we got home, my W was there and dressed to go out. Her girlfriend who's been out of town for 3 weeks, is back in town and was invited by a guy to go to a local bar to see a band play. My W was joining them.
My MIL is visiting so we don't need a babysitter. I was upset that my W was going out with GF and a guy. I told my W "why doesn't she invite me since GF is going with a guy and we have her Mom to babysit?" -- W told me that she didn't think of it, she planned on only talking to her GF. She said "yes, come".
While getting ready, my W lied on our bed and said "come here" wanting to cuddle. She's like this whenever she feels guilty. I wasn't in the mood, but I don't want to completely reject her so I sat down. She explained again why she didn't invite me.
Anyway, I went with them to a rather seedy bar with mostly 20-somethings and we stayed until midnight. To me, the older people in their late 20s or early 30s are mostly lost souls. Her GF is 31, single, unemployeed, and living in her parents house. One reason my W hangs out with her is that this GF is always available to do anything, since my W usually pays. I also know that my W sees this GF and sees the problems with her too.
My DB coach sees it as a good sign that while she didn't initially invite me, after I brought it up, I was welcome.
