Fantastic post, Rick. Swede, I back all of this 100%.

Try to find the ways your sitch is being negatively affected by the "don'ts" that Rick has outlined above and focus like a laser on eliminating them.

Again, this is excellent advice and exquisitely illustrated.

M41 W42
M 12 T 15
S10, D9, twin Ds 3 1/2
BD 1/2/2013
Living as roommates
Working on D agreement w. mediator 5/13