about writing to W, I agree with previous comments about if it is right for you. In my case, my W responds well to letters -- she gives letters a lot of weight, and it also recalls when we were dating long-distance and wrote letters to each other almost every day (yes, before Internet, email, FB, and everything else we have today).
So sometimes a letter is a more powerful way to deliver a message. Also, she can read it again and again. Maybe it won't help now, but a month from now?
