A plan of action...vet advice needed

[adinva]

When you say LRT didn't work, reread DB about what it is and what it is for. There is no plan or action that you can do to stop W from something she wants to do. I don't believe LRT is described as something that can do that. So it won't work if that's what you're using it for. Understand what it is for. (Know that you cannot control another person; you cannot make her do anything, think anything, or feel anything she does not want to. You ONLY control you.)

I'm glad you're staying in the house.

I agree with the comments to plan on mainly listening and try less to prepare for a talk to get your desired outcome. It's scary. But you don't get to control the outcome, you just don't. Again, you only control YOU.

As for being baited, don't blame her for your behavior. She can say you are purple. Only you are responsible for your response. Decide, plan, practice not reacting. However, you should set boundaries about being treated with common decency and the respect anyone deserves and that you are willing to give her. So, "you completely disgust me" is something you should set a boundary about. W, I expect you to speak respectfully, not call names, and I'll do the same for you. If you speak to me like that again I will leave the room and we'll need to reschedule whatever you planned to discuss, for a later time that you're willing to try again respectfully.

As a man, you are not, and should not be, expected to tolerate insults hurled at you simply because they're coming from a woman or your W. Say no to that, cut it out, stop it, or excuuuuuse me?!