WFM thanks for your continued support. You will find the more non family/friend support you can get the better for you. This is why I am huge fan of this forum, EE, ACoA and Alanon.
Just so you know I backslid above by confronting W about her disconnection. But I am not going to wallow in it. Like you said above "relinquish regrets over the past etc."
I will continue to practice this with and without you.
