Grizz, just make sure your W and you are in agreement about what she's taking. My W wasn't offering ANY info leading up to her moving, so I contacted her and asked her to sit down with me to discuss what she was taking so that we would both know in advance and therefore not get angry over a misunderstanding. We sat down that evening and very quietly went over every single item she planned on taking. It was a negotiation process, there were things she was taking that I didn't care about and other things that I did. Some of the things I cared about were not a big deal to her, so had we not talked she might have taken things that upset me that she really didn't want anyway. And there were some things that she didn't plan on taking until she found out I didn't care about them. There were other things that we both wanted, but we were able to peacefully resolve every single thing. We both walked away with a full understanding of what she was taking. She moved while I was at work and it all went quite smoothly, there were only a few "surprises" and nothing particularly upsetting.
In doing this there's the obvious advantage of knowing in advance what she's taking/ not taking, but there's also a benefit in showing her that the two of you can sit down and peacefully resolve what could be a very explosive situation.
