it is what it is and not us or them are going to bring back the past. We are done! YOu and H, me and H or done as two mature loving committed adults. They don't have any qualities anymore, nor are they thankful for us still being here.
They keeping us on a string, and once in a while they tug on it with gestures just to make sure your still there. Finding out that you're NOT still hooked (like me) doesn't necessarily mean he'll desperately try to win you back, he may try to hook you with new bait.
It's still not at ALLLLL about us, it is about them. And yes, it was a very good attachment to read, are H's are not interested in returning back to the middle ground as of yet.
Mine is way to focused on anger and revenge to see his way clearly through anything, he is taken, gone, consumed by his failures, immature, and not strong enough to handle life.
I believe he is sincere in the brief milliseconds that he is nice to me, but I will not live w/that unreliable, immaturity for the rest of my days. I have to believe at this point there is someone out there worthy of me, sh!t h isn't the only guy in the world. I'm done!
Your H is focused on HIMSELF! It is all about him, his needs, his wants, and nobody is going to tell a retired, educated, healthy man w/$$$, what HE is going to do w his life. He hasn't really done anything on the up & up ever if he's had OW always there on the side.
You are now out of his life, the one on the side w/her, sorry. The only difference we have is that our H's feel the guilt and need to at least maintain the lifestyle to which they have provided. It's almost like Hannibal Lector, it would be considered rude to just pull everything out from under us and go in for a quick kill.
Plus, these narcissistic guys get some quickened rush w/the idea that they can take care of their "home life" us, and still be able to do whatever else they want. My H said it yesterday, blah blah, and I will still maintain this family.
All said w/L Nero, hope I didn't offend! (((((())))))) <3 dm
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
