Almost two years and still stuck in limbo

[newman7977]

Good for you! Definitely get off the crazy train. If she wants to get back together, she will do it. Anything else is as you say, scraps.

You want the real thing, so move forward and find peace. Only she can fix herself.

You're absolutely right Moth, early on my sitch someone has mentioned that I would know when she's ready to reconcile and work on the M. She needs to figure out what really the value of our M to her.

Hi Newman, its amazing to watch the transition of someone who is putting up with almost anything to get their marriage back, to an almost lightbulb moment when one finally makes a decision to stop fighting so hard. You have done all you can. You are a man only a fool would leave.

Galbaby, thanks. It's been two years and my boundaries have been stepped on 3 times, that's just a deal breaker for me while we are in the same roof. I wasn't trying to control her I just want her to move out if she's going to do those things. She's free to go. I know the A is a symptom but to me it's also a major road block to reconciliation. My gut tells me that maybe not at this moment but I think eventually the EA will start again and were back in the same cycle. It's a cheeseless tunnel it's time to break the cycle.

I hope I will there one day, slowly moving on in that direction…

BF, we all have different timelines, once you are satisfy yourself that you believe you did everything you can--that's when you get there for you. Thanks for stopping by.

Newman I'm very happy to hear that you aren't willing to settle for her scraps you deserve better than that. Living like this is a benefit to her and not you. You know what you what now its time for you to go get it.

Leo, yes It's clear now what I want. I also feel that i need that space without seeing her to see if I'm really ok with everything that happened. I need to find myself and live solo for a while and see how that feels. Most importantly I'm on protect mode now to protect me from the repeated abuse of my boundary.

I'll have more later got to get to work.

Newman