We never really fought or argued much but for some reason my wife was very cold and distant after one particular disagreement. I finally told her i felt like i was living with a roomate and that is when she told me how she has been unhappy for the last year.
That is VERY similar to my own sitch. We rarely fought, but my W grew more and more cold and distant in the M. I told her for months before BD that I felt like we were roommates rather than H and W. At BD she also claimed to have been unhappy for quite some time (years). So what you're going through is (unfortunately) not that unusual.
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The next day when she came home i was sitting alone and told her maybe it was best if i moved out
Generally we advise the LBS not to move out for several reasons. One is that moving is a big inconvenience, and that inconvenience should be experienced by the WAS, not the LBS. Another is that if there are kids, they don't want to leave their place of comfort (the current home). Another is the LBS needs to step back and let the WAS make ALL decisions regarding separation and divorce. If the WAS felt the LBS was controlling in the M, then any effort the LBS makes to move out or otherwise control things will seem to the WAS like "more of the same" behavior.
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We went to M/C 2 times after which she told me she was done.
Yeah, we usually counsel against seeking MC with a WAS because they typically just use it to show how "done" they are. Have you read DR? You need to remove ALL pressure from your WAW. MC is a form of pressure, pressure that she does not want/ need right now.
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She said we can try but she is not willing to put a time frame on anything cause she still had no feelings for me.
This is a marathon, not a sprint. Read DR. Put it into practice. Read Sandi's 180 DB tips at the top of this forum, LIVE those tips. Give your W time and space. Remove all pressure. It is going to take her months or even years to get her feelings for you back again. This sitch didn't happen overnight and it won't be repaired overnight. Be patient! Good luck.
