I am in the middle of the legal battle and it has not been an enjoyable experience.
We have settled our custody and are now working through the financials which we seem far apart on.
Our discussions regarding the D were continuing to not get anywhere and I eventually told her that I will no longer discuss any of it with her and she would have to work through my attorney.
That has been a huge relief emotionally and also a good tactical move imo.
I believe you can and you should DB through this but I also believe you should always be DB'ing.
DB'ing is for you KG. Its for you to live your life as you wish and to present yourself to the world as you wish to.
Your relationship w/ your H may be improved by this but that is not your sole purpose for db'ing, is it??
I am dealing w/ broken trust as well.
From your post it seems that you are allowing your H to influence/control your decisions. Are you ok with this?
I worked so hard and continue to do so on getting to a place where I make decisions that I feel are in mine and my kids best interest.
Regardless of what my W may think or do. Not to induce a reaction or avoid one but regardless of one.
Yes he will be angry and spew venom and judge you, etc.. Does that make you wrong? Any less worthy? A bad mom?
Are you gonna allow him to decide that or are you gonna decide who and what you are and how you want to live your life?
