Continuing The Positive Changes

[ThisDayForward]

Thx for this post. Thx for making me look at it this way.

[ThisDayForward]

Tonight we went out to eat with family. She sat next to me. I think she might have actually touched me. So there are some positives. She hasn't dropped the D word this time around. Just stated she felt she is stuck in a cycle with me. Which I know is bat sh i t crazy talk.

She asked me to volunteer at S's school. That also a positive. She talks about going to vaca house. That is a positive.

I'm still sleeping in the master room. This is mostly me not leaving bedroom this time around. stopped being a baby and stayed in there.

I'm working on getting much thicker skin, although all things considering pretty thick.

Thx for support it is always appreciated.

[MrBond]

"Just stated she felt she is stuck in a cycle with me. Which I know is bat sh i t crazy talk. "

Not necessarily. Have you and her ever tried something completely different? Maybe going or do something exotic or a crazy activity that is so not you two? She could be bored.

[ThisDayForward]

She was referring to me being smothering.

Firing range we did

[TSquared2]

smothering? Maybe try some "aloof" but "available"? (This was suggested by rH over in mlc-land as attractive).

The firing range is good...

How about skinny-dipping? Camping, backpacking, whitewater rafting? Some things to get the adrenaline going?

[ThisDayForward]

These are all great suggestions but when my W gets like this she doesn't even want to be around me. I've started to go out more

[ThisDayForward]

Can you expand on aloof.

[ThisDayForward]

My W told me just now after I asked about continuing on disconnected that this is how she feels again and her feelings not changing

[ThisDayForward]

just posting a link on detachment for my own reference:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...55814#Post55814

[ThisDayForward]

Bond do you mind giving me some examples on what you did to detach and remove yourself from the crazy train