Slowing to a Crawl

[RosaLinda]

Hi Portia, I hope you had a nice weekend, and that you were able to do something fun. I've been away for a few days, and am now off moderation, thank God. 

How are you handling your no contact period? Having no contact must be harder in some ways and easier in some ways than trying to remain detached while living in the same house as your MLCer. Are you able to block him out of your mind? I find myself thinking about my H and about his Russian Tramp constantly. I bet I think about her more than he does! 

Detachment is hard; I am taking it one hour at a time. Right now I am just trying to be strong and not push, beg, follow, text, or throw my arms around my H. In other moods I have to try not to scream, punch him, throw his laptop out the window, and send nasty emails to the Russian Tramp OW. 

I think you're right about your SO's relationship with his OW seeming stranger the more you detached you become. She sounds like she might be having a MLC too! Or maybe she's just a user, ensuring that she has a man to support her if her attempts to reconcile her marriage don't work out. Such a strange mindset!!

I'm glad you are using this time to get stronger and healthier and happier. Hang in there, and contact him when you feel ready!