You know I think very very few people actually make it through MLC. At least the bad cases that most of us here are dealing with. Doesn't mean we should give up hope, as some do make it.
It isn't our fault. We didn't break them and we can't fix them. There is a period when many of us feel quite bitter. The sad fact as many have said, bad things happen to nice people. Not just MLC, but illness and death of loved ones, horrible accidents, and so forth. It is how we deal with what life throws at us, and how we are equipped to deal with this stuff. that determines the outcome.
Our MLC spouses did not have the toolkit to deal with what life threw at them, and in a way they are to be pitied for that. Although i do believe in tough love after a certain period of grace!
