Sleeper, I think you're wise to work w. counselor but perhaps you should consider the legal side as well. It sounds as if you need an enforceable agreement.
Otherwise you're setting off on rocky territory w/a new marriage.
Do you have a date set for wedding?
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D