Bea, He really doesn't have a clue what you are referring to and whatever you do, do not respond to that email. His children's actions will be enough to help him connect the dots in due time.
He thinks that he's been there all of this time for them and that nothing he's done has been out of the ordinary and he still feels "entitled" and when he wants them in his life, he expects them to open the door, lay out the red carpet and bow to him. That's truly not what is going to happen and until your children show him w/their actions that his behavior was and continues to be unacceptable, he will not get it, then again, he may never get it.
Continue skipping on down the lane and leave him right where he is...on the Mother Ship. You don't need this type of aggravation in your life and quite frankly, he should be the one jumping through hoops to be able to in your presence, not the other way around.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
