beatrice- These people are so crazy and can't even see the ridiculousness of their behavior. My XH seems to get that he was wrong and has even apologized. We went 8 months of NC and recently he he has acted like he wants to reconnect with me on several occasions. Last week he asked if he could attend an event with me. Long story short, he came to the event, sat near me and was telling people fond stories of our travel experiences and even praising me for my travel planning. I'm sure the people thought we were still together by the conversation. He ended up leaving the event early and now he has vanished again which is fine. I truly have moved on with my life but I have to admit he has had my head spinning a couple of times because I started thinking "what if". Reading your thread has reassured me that he is still crazy and I can't let me thoughts go back there. My XH just seems to be putting his toe in the water. If I were ever to consider giving him another chance, he would have to jump in with his whole body for me to ever go back and I know that isn't going to happen. I need to keep moving forward.
I agree these people are selfish and egocentric. Do they not see that their actions without true remorse and repentance opens up old wounds? Can they not understand the cruelty of their actions? I guess not and it does not appear that we will ever be free of an MLCer death does us part. We need to continue to be strong and preserve the equilibrium and happiness in our lives that we struggled for so long to find.
Your strength is an inspiration. I hope your XH fades into the woodwork again and leaves you in peace. Take care.
