No longer treading water, must either sink or swim

[JRG]

Grizz, I sent a something similar early in my sitch (before I learned about DB). Although I didn't write it as an apology I wrote it to let her know exactly my position on our R (that I wanted to work on it and that her leaving has "opened" my eyes). I sent it and she didn't even acknowledge getting it. Did sending it do me any good or bad? I have no idea. I guess I'm glad I sent it because she should know how I feel. Prior to that I don't think she knew how much I wanted to work on our R.

I can't tell you whether to send it or not. If you think you'll regret not sending it then maybe you should. If she already knows the things that you wrote, maybe there's no point and she'll just view it as desperation. You should not have any expectations if you do send it though.