My thoughts...and maybe I missed it. Are you both paying for the mortgage? Is she kicking you out of the house?
Make her do all the work as far as D, but you have to let her go. Also do you get some disability from the military? Maybe they can help you with your housing? I don't know not familiar with the disability. But sounds like she is moving with the D...and the basics, the more you talk her out of it the more she will move forward.
So just to be clear you're willing to live in the same roof separately?
Just some thoughts SFC, good luck .
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.