That's good advice FY and yes in truth it would be better for the R to spend an evening together as a family even if its only once a fortnight. It would give us something to build on and help with re-connecting.
But the sacrifice from my perspective is a big one only having S every other weekend.
Perhaps I will suggest it on a trial basis to see how it goes.
Forgot to mention that on S birthday the other week I did go around for the evening and it went well. We played together with S (plenty laughing) and both got him ready for bed which he really enjoyed. First time we had done anything like this since she moved out.
