Just a general update and the holiday saga continues.
We had a talk and I suggested a few days but not the whole week with weekends either side. She got a bit edgy about it being important to spend time with my son. I calmly reminded her that I know this and explained that I actually get more time with S than she does except during the school holidays. She has a carer 1 day a week which means she only has S Monday evening, Tuesday evening and Thursday evening.
We spoke again after a few days and she showed a nicer side stating that she did not want me to think that I was doing all the work with S whilst she had weekends free, holidays etc. I said I did not think that but there needs to be a balance that works for both of us.
She then suggested me doing alternate weekends and on the weeks I don't see him I could go around to her place and have dinner with them and spend the evening with S.
So yet another dilemma. Advantages to alternate weekends would be I get chance to do some of the big jobs on the house that need doing. I also get to spend an evening with W and S which maybe an opportunity as we never do things as a family since she moved out.
Downside is I don't want to be a part time dad and S and I have a great weekend together. It would also be yet more disruption to his schedule.
Anyone got any suggestions on this one as its starting to make my head spin. She can be very manipulative about stuff like this and has been in the past. My gut feeling is to stick with my original offer.
Thanks for the support everyone.
My opinion is that you have to base your decision on what is best for the relationship between you and your W. Would doing things as a family be better for reaching this goal? It sounds like it would be to me. I'm always for more connection if you can get it.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
