Affair forecast:stormy with a chance of a break-up

[ForeverYoung]

Hi TVS, I'm so glad to hear things are looking up for you guys.

Regarding having the MLC'er at home...

While I agree it is not usually our choice whether they stay or not, our actions do affect their decision. When we give them space and create a pressure free environment, it makes it more likely they will feel comfortable enough to stay.

I prefer having mine at home with me, so we can maintain some sort of connection. Plus, I like that I know more about what's going on with her. There's no money or kids issue keeping her here, so it must be something about me that's not so bad after all.

I too fear being stuck in the friend/roommate zone and won't wait forever.

Finally, when they do leave, it's always seen as a step towards break up. And when they return, as a step towards R. Better to have 'em here the whole time if you can, I think.

You are doing great and are an inspiration to us all. Bust On!