Going In Circles

[shouldistillhope]

I welcome everyone's help and advice. I will keep filling in the missing pieces as I go along. This past week I have moved in with my sister and her husband because it just got too uncomfortable staying at our home. Originally my wife said we should both stay here in our house and finish the remodeling until it was ready to go on the market.

She said we could continue to sleep in the same bed, but we have not been intimate since March.

We have been having some conversations lately about what went wrong and she just wants to be independent and live her own life. She has told me I was just too controlling and I now realize that.

Last night she also mentioned that I never really listened to her and I had to win every argument. this is the first time she has really opened up and since I have already read DR and spend a lot of time on this forum, I just sat there and looked into her eyes and actually listened and kept my mouth shut, but I feel it may be too late and want to know if I should keep hoping for our marriage to work.