Bea, I'm not surprised that he is madder than an old wet hen right now. In his eyes, you were telling what he can and can't do. They don't like that. But, I do know where you are coming from. I've had my share of the nonsense as well.
The best thing you can do is go back to no contact. Unless it's absolutely necessary to have contact w/him, then keep the no contact in place at all times. He needs to face the consequences of his actions and he's not going to learn life's lessons if he's allow to waltz in and out of your life and that of your children. Bea, your children will need to buck up and keep their distance and stand by their boundaries as well in order to him to eventually "get it".
Hang in there because there will be more missives that will burn up your laptop. One nice thing...the delete key is very handy when you need it.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
