I have just realised that I never have to deal with my xh again. My kids all feel that I have all that is necessary and then some - we wanted to see if he could be reasonable as there are family weddings coming up which it would have been nice for him to attend, and two of my children are hoping to have their own children in the next couple of years, but they do not want their father as an active grandparent the way he still is
I so hoped it could be otherwise, but he so does not get the need for kindness and making amends to his children. Without this there can be no real relationship. They see him a couple of times a year, and the fact that OW2 is foisted on them makes them even more reluctant to see him. She is apparently 'an awful woman' to quote one of my sons.
Because he began his relationship with her after we were divorced in his view this makes it all OK. But there is no rule that says you have to like or want to hang out with your parents' new partners, once you are an adult yourself.
