BANG! Bomb Drop Number Two

[AJM]

How about dealing with it as it comes? I don't see any reason to say anything. I see more of a reason to be real. If she decides she'd rather be with OM, then help her pack her bags and wish her luck. Mean it though. Don't act on it until you mean it.

This is her trip. She wants to change you? Really? Then will she only love you if she changes you? Or can you be you?

Meanwhile, you are being you and making changes for you. She is scrutinizing you, which is a lot of pressure. Shake that off and be just you. Be authentic. She'll have to figure out what she is about and what she wants and you'll have to do likewise. Don't try to make her jealous or show her what she'll lose. Don't try to contort yourself to be something else. She'll just look at that and say you changed to try and manipulate her to come back. Believe me on that one.

If you want her to come back, then be you, drop the anger, drop the "fairness" aspect, and don't stray away from what you're goals are. Be you. Go after what you want. She is not done figuring things out and you are not asked for your opinion. Don't offer it, if you can help it. You're doing very well and it's getting noticed, but since you're not really the issue here (most likely), you can only be you.

You can figure out the rest of it later as there will be time then.

Peace,
AJ