He has talked about his R with S5 before, but I see him making a real effort now to make some changes. Time will tell if these changes stick.
I think that working on his issues with the children may be a good starting point for him as far as self reflection. After all, kids love unconditionally. He may feel "safe" in delving into his R with the boys. No questions from them, no judgement. I wish I could see things through their eyes
Have been reading a lot of HB's stuff. Sometimes I feel like I'm in the minority in having an MLCer at home. (T^2, FY, WH, GAL, I know you are with me ) I wonder... How can they "come home" when they never left? I realize that "coming home" can be metaphorical in nature - but still...
From HB ~
"Now listen - let him go for now, he will either wake up or he won't.
He has chosen his path with OW, and you must work on you, and forget him, at least for now.
You are still grieving your dead M, which is normal.
Concerning OW - while I agree she has her part in this, too, focusing on her will make you miserable, and give her power over you that she doesn't know about.
Focusing on your husband will keep you down, as well. As long as he is tied up in this affair, he cannot see the forest for the trees.
And you have TWO options:
Work on yourself, and wait for him to "wake up"
Work on yourself, divorcing him in the process
Your choice, as I cannot tell you one way or another.
But you need to focus on you and the children, those are the most important people right now.
You won't know what is in his mind till the time comes, if it ever does, as you are taking a chance waiting on him to "wake up".
You have no other choice, really, except to let him go, focus on YOU, and get on with your life AS IF he's not in it, and stop analyzing his every move - you'll go crazy trying to do that.
And leave everything else in the hands of The Lord."
Yep.
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
