Sam, The best advice that I can give you is to let her go and allow God to work on her. Maybe moving to CA will be the best thing for her, i.e., to get this out of her system a bit and miss what she had back East. It's all about her and what she needs to escape from her past.
Sam, keep the focus on you and what you need to do in order to survive. Above all else, stay focused on your finances, especially the settlement issues. You will need to leave your emotions at the door and think w/your head when it comes to splitting up assets, etc.
I'm very sorry that it has come to this. I do hope that you can find a way to move forward in the days ahead.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
