Sam, I'm glad you returned to post an update. I'm sorry your W is still pushing forward on the divorce. They all tend to be nice when they want the world to see them as great folks in front of you, as well as when they want something. They are so transparent when they do this. Unfortunately, you can't do anything to turn her around and she's going to need to see it through.
As for her position, I think you are correct in saying that there are possibly some underlying issues in that arena. She may not have gotten along very well w/boss during her mlc and this is her way out of a situation that doesn't "fit" her needs for now. Mlcers are known to have difficulties w/co-workers during their time of crisis. Yes, she's running away fast and hard, but it's not going to cure her any time soon. In fact, she'll get on the West Coast, be happy as a clam for a while and then discover that all her friends are still on the other coast and find an excuse to return, i.e., wanting to buy you out of the house...most people who are relocating w/a divorce going on would want to sell and have the cash available for relocating. She truly doesn't know what she wants.
Sam, I'm glad to see that you are still training for the race. I hope that the weather will be great and you can enjoy yourself. Having family here for the race and celebrating your big 50 is just what the doctor ordered up for you.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
