Here's part of an email my attorney received from my H regarding the latest offer presented by his attorney:
"It would be better if you contacted me immediately and directly to answer questions and perhaps discuss minor changes if necessary. I do not want to spend weeks of back and forth phone calls between the parties to get answers that we may be able to hash out immediately tonight."
First of all, he has an attorney. It is inappropriate for him to contact mine. He's been doing this for months. She doesn't respond to him. Instead she forwards the emails to his attorney. It's clear he's trying to save money on his end, but he's fine with continuing to rack up my legal fees. Also, I thought it was strange to refer to "the parties." He IS one of the parties. He's not the attorney.
He's delusional. I ignored his latest offer. It needs a lot more than "minor" changes. He still doesn't seem to understand that this agreement will decide custody/visitation, the house, my income for the next decade, at least, and a lot of other things. It's a big deal. Along with it, we will also be terminating our marriage by stipulation which doesn't seem to bother him in the least.
If we can't reach a settlement than we will have a hearing this summer regarding bifurcation and a trial much later. I do believe we can settle this, but I will hold out for what's fair. My H seems to be in much more of a hurry.
I'm amazed how he compartmentalizes. He never mentions the boys. I would be frantic if I walked out on my kids and had only seen them a few times in a year and a half. Does the passage of time just not register? How can his mind be so preoccupied with other things that the boys are no longer in the forefront? I'm having a hard time wrapping my mind around this. Someone, please explain this to me.
