Wife lost in the MLC-We are now separated 2

[sam4nh]

I needed to take some time and see if I could find myself a bit more….

Things on my front are not in the best place, but I know I will survive. My W is in full force pursuit of a divorce. She barely speaks to me and when she does it's more to push buttons than anything else. Basically the only time she is nice is when she's in front of people and wants them to see how sweet she is being about the whole divorce, needs to tell me something or wants me to do something for her.

So a few updates, W found out few weeks ago that her position at her company has been eliminated. Long story, but they said are trying to fire one of her peers, and based on that being done they needed to climate both positions. After a few more conversations with her it’s obvious that there are some underlying issues that she is not sharing. She did say that they did offer her another position, but she would need to relocate to work at a corporate office. She was all in a whirl when she called me to "inform" (her words not mine) me of the changes in her job. A couple days later she again "informed" me that she had been offered an awesome job but another group, but she would need to move to the west coast. She had talked to another manager was awesome and that he was going to "fight" for her. She was very excited and then started talking about how she was going to take the position and went on about how she didn't like her current boss, he didn't know anything about what she was trying to accomplish, never supported her and a whole slew of other negative things about him.

She now is in a twirl about whether she can buy me out of the house and how she wants to keep the house since she thinks she’ll only stay out west for a year or two. Really? I’m sure the manager would not think there’s a lot of commitment…

I think she's running as fast as she can to anywhere but near me. I guess it's really not up to me to figure out, but for her to find herself. In my heart I truly doubt she will ever will.

So I'm moving on and keeping up getting a life. She wants her freedom, independence, a divorce and all that comes with it, then so be it. I guess I'm just throwing in the towel with her and continue to piece my life back together. This has been and really is the hard part.

One positive note is that I have taken a position with the company I have been consulting at for the last five years. It's a nice feeling that not everything is falling apart at my feet.

I am also still training for the sailing race from Massachusetts to Bermuda. That race starts mid-June. I'll also be celebrating my big 50th birthday while at sea. I'm also bringing my family over to celebrate too. It's just been such a rough year for everyone and I wanted them to have something fun and positive for them to look forward to.

Peace, Sam