So talk to her with a C, apparently that's what she needs.

If you start to mess up when she starts a R talk, tell her you're not ready for that, you need time.

Don't know how much you read other threads but his post might be helpful for you.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...857#Post2349857

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss