So, am I missing a chance to give her a bit of alpha male by confronting this?
I don't think this is the right thing to do. If this is not you, and not somebody you want to be, why pretend? At the moment your W may have a fantasy of this type of guy but if you mimic this or act this way and she does come out of MLC wanting to see you as she left you, you will have been acting like the guy she's no longer is interested in. Hope that makes sense? I read in a book that trying to be like the OM is the worst thing you can do, as you are becoming the worst possible version of yourself.
Don't get me wrong, I often wonder what my W sees in the OM, and think I should try and be like that. But then, she fell in love with me when I was myself (yes possibly a better version of the person I had been up to BD) so maybe thats all i need to be.
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.
