I'm just thinking out loud - why would anyone leave a M for a friendship?
My 2 cents ONLY...but I don't think LL's h left the marriage FOR the friendship. I think he S. to alleviate confusion, anger, stress, discomfort, maybe a thousand other things but I don't have the sense that the "friendship" WAS the destination.
But... that's just speculation!
Sage
PS LL -- I'm really liking your thinking!!!!
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.