Edward, please remember that your mother will have her own opinion about your W, regardless of your current sitch. Also, your mother wants YOU to be happy. So she'll say things to you that are not just her personal biases, but also because she wants you to be happy.
That said, your mother could be right. But your W is unhealthy for you if you do not uphold your boundaries. Not just regarding your W, but anyone... maybe even your boundaries with your mother are weak. Something to think about, maybe.
Regarding the mediator, try not to judge your W because she "stalled" that discussion. You likely have no idea why and it could be very valid. Yes, things are delayed. That's all.
I am curious to know what your reason was to call the mediator? Were you simply trying to prove to yourself that your W didn't do it and so lied to you?
Remember that WAS and MLCers often tell the LBS something, especially if it has to do about dissolution, only to not follow through. It can be their way of trying to say, they need more space and more time.
