We want the WAS to hurt like we have and you are right it doesn't do anything but push them away and make us hold onto the pain longer.
There's advantages and disadvantages to all sitches. Having kids means some contact and some chances to show how you have changed. It also means you have to chat with someone who has left you about mundane things and look after the kids while they do things. Living in the same house means lots of contact and chances to show off 180's but again you have to have PMA 100% of the time and sit and watch what your WAS is doing.
Going to where you got married could be a good thing or it could be a bad thing. I would be moping around feeling sorry for myself. If you can do it without feeling bad and depressed thats OK. I would find it to difficult myself.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
