I will chose to allow myself to believe h is telling the truth about the ea not being a pa.
I will not allow my m to remain "stuck" while I wait for a different story and I will not allow myself to remain "stuck" based upon some fear that if I do believe h is telling the truth I will at some point down the line once comfortable with that belief have it pulled away from me with some new confession.
no sense in keeping myself stuck based on a possibility.
so then I forge ahead accepting that h is telling the truth.
LL
Hi LL,
Just wanted you to know that I totally agree. No more ugh for you!!! Don't allow yourself to get stuck. No point pondering and driving yourself crazy about possibilities. Your H is back, you are piecing and building a new M. The A is over. What does it matter if it was a PA? I can tell you that there will be no end to it. There will always be questions on your mind. And sometimes the more details you know the more tortured you will feel by it and the more you will be reminded by Hs indiscretion (even though its over), speaking from personal experience here. You get these awful mental images that just won't go away!!
So forget it, get unstuck and move on. And so what if sometime in the future H confesses something new about the past A? No big deal. Just cheer him on for having courage to confess even if he didn't do it immediately when he should (again we're just assuming this). So no more ughs for LL. Move on and enjoy your M. (Though I know you are still struggling to deal with the LD/ND as I still am).
