Continuing The Positive Changes

[ThisDayForward]

Not often B.

I've begin to recognize days I have trouble detaching ;

Usually morning after she ice cold to me or like last night she got a txt at 1140 pm and woke me up. That triggers something. The trigger is typically fear of Om in my head. So recognizing is 1/2 battle

[ThisDayForward]

Bond what I fear is that I do not wish to do 6 months of sexless silent marriage again. We are already approaching a month and she is pulling her malarky again. I'm trying to be patient but the comments I made should not have spun her back to here again. Almost like she waits to get offended. looks for me to make a mistake. I can't see my W pursuing me. She is a tough cracker

[jp787]

You went through the "honeymoon phase" of Piecing where FEELINGS are high, but then eventually that high goes away. It's the same way that affairs work.

PON,
Just my 2 cents from looking in.

I looks as if your W is not ready to face her "stuff".

She went to the feel good of being back with you, that wore off and now she is maybe feeling out OM again. All of this to avoid feeling her pain and dealing with her issues.

Maybe you are not on the same path, yet.

[ThisDayForward]

jp yes. Basically that is what Bond telling me all through this journey. Unfortunately it may take me filing for her to face her stuff

[ThisDayForward]

the ironic thing is when W started to first disconnect again she started getting immediately secretive with phone again. She also IMHO started to get paranoid again that i was snooping into her stuff (past history 3 years ago). Either way I need to go back to detaching which is a biatch

[ThisDayForward]

Also Bond if I am truly detaching I don't even bother asking who is texting at 1140 pm at night to her. I find it very suspicious and well disrespectful

[MrBond]

"I do not wish to do 6 months of sexless silent marriage again."

Then don't.

"We are already approaching a month and she is pulling her malarky again."

In what way?

"I'm trying to be patient but the comments I made should not have spun her back to here again."

It wasn't your comments that brought her back to her bad behavior. So don't act or treat it as such.

"Almost like she waits to get offended. looks for me to make a mistake."

Mindreading. Right now she just sees you as a distraction. That's what she's acting like.

"I can't see my W pursuing me. She is a tough cracker"

You can do this.

[ThisDayForward]

In what way:

No sex
No affection
No talking
Says she feels the way she did before again
Silent treatment some days
Secret phone

Yeah 25 help me understand my comment didn't do that

I basically have a choice

Gal and detach
Leave

[makingmagic]

PON... sorry to hear things aren't going so well today.

Drop the hot coal... see what happens??

((HUGS))

[MrBond]

What POSITIVE things have you seen her doing?