I personally find it interesting that a 50 yr old woman would like to (and could) have a child with a OM.
She says she's in menopause now so it will likely remain a wish.
Originally Posted By: Kaffe Diem
the two of you are not D yet and she is thinking not just about having a child with OM, but also building a house with him?
Her plan of building a house is directly from her. She has a high income so she could do it.
She once mentioned a role model: the current German president, Joachim Gauck. He separated from his wife and his four children and has been together with his lover for a decade who now is the "First Lady" in Germany. Officially he is still married to his wife. This is against my moral code, I find it creepy. Thus I will live with the situation of W/OM only for a limited time, maybe 1-2 years - or until I am done.
Originally Posted By: Kaffe Diem
Just consider what would need to happen for your W do accomplish those goals, any time you think that there is not a possibility that the A could end.
Although nearly everybody around me has recommended to divorce W I continue to DB. Whenever the kids are with me in the house W comes daily in the evening after work to bring some clothes or rehash the school day with the kids. We talk friendly, at the end she gives me a hug - even in the darkest times she always emphasized that family life was "perfect". It's just that OM manages to attract her in some unknown way, as a "soul mate". I asked her once what's so special about him but she refused to elaborate. He's not good-looking, has a belly, a bald head, several health problems, has not finished any education and a negligible income with small-scale free-lance jobs and stays at home most of the day.
I51 XW51 T30 M18 D11/11 S9 2/12 ILYBINILWY 3/12 I left home 4/12 PA 9/12 XW left home and moved in with OM 4/13 I moved back to home 6/14 Big D
