DBing, GALing and living oh my!

[cbtdad]

Mach,
As usual you are right on. I feel like I've come a long way in reacting on things she does or says. But inside emotionally it still drives me crazy. I have to get detached for my well being. The only way I know to do that is to cut all communication except for son.
Because you are absolutely right that she can flip me like a pancake and I will end up talking to her right away. I have decided to just act as if around her and not bring up or say anything around her other than son talk.
If she starts talking about anything else other than son, I will then use verbge you gave me.
As example, yesterday she asks how many appointments I had, how my day went, etc
Then that turns into "talking" and before you know it one of us is bringing "us and our situation up"
It's not just me that brings his stuff up.
So the only way I know how to stop is to stop communication