Good for you! Unfortunately I think the harder part will begin once he takes you up on your offer, because if your needs aren't being met or there are other issues you are having, there will be times he wants sex and you just don't feel like it. That will be a challenge, but you have to have a "pay it forward" mentality and understand that this is a transition period where you are investing in the relationship now for a payback that will come later.

At some point when the SSM issue is no longer an elephant in the room, you're going to have to have the conversation about getting what you need from this relationship too, but for now that has to wait.

Read MWD's "The Sex Starved Marriage" book if you have not, it will help you.

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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015