JT - why so many emails? Seems like an awful lot of pursuit from someone saying they are LRT.
I'd like to step back a little bit...because so far, very little of this thread has been about you.
What happened with your first M? How long did that last? What were the issues there? Did you address them?
Is this your W's first M? How long did you know each other before getting M?
What's the story with your D? How much do you have her, how old is she? Where there issues with you and your W as it relates to this?
I find it a little odd that you'd get married and almost immediately she moves into the spare room. Did you fight a lot? What's the backstory here?
Are you still going to IC? Have you made any progress on your anger? What other issues are you working on? What don't you like about your role in the relationship?
